Guilty free Internet time
One of my major weaknesses was the addiction to web surfing. I realized it as an addiction but I couldn't help it. I craved it. It was like a drug addiction.
This year I spent hours on Facebook, collected hundreds of pictures of beautiful homes & gardens ,inspired so many people by sharing them & motivated many friends to get organized. All my friends & relatives knew me as a well- organized person. But I had started to deviate from that day by day.
This year I spent hours on Facebook, collected hundreds of pictures of beautiful homes & gardens ,inspired so many people by sharing them & motivated many friends to get organized. All my friends & relatives knew me as a well- organized person. But I had started to deviate from that day by day.
I had so many excuses to convince me and my husband that I need hours of internet time. I am a teacher who teaches for Cambridge exams. I need to use internet in all my activities. "I work, I earn well , I run a house so I deserve a few hours of ME TIME too" I thought.
But addiction didn't give me the calmness & peace in mind I wanted get. First it was relaxing & the websites I visited were really educational. After sometime I didn't get any benefit of this habit. I was just time passing while all my loved ones & my home needed my attention & care.
But addiction didn't give me the calmness & peace in mind I wanted get. First it was relaxing & the websites I visited were really educational. After sometime I didn't get any benefit of this habit. I was just time passing while all my loved ones & my home needed my attention & care.
I realized that while I spend hours looking for methods to organize my home and keep it neat, it was getting messy, while I kept looking for activities for toddlers on web, my baby was getting neglected, while I was looking for good marriage tips my husband was missing me, while I was motivating other women @Flylady’s page, I was getting less motivated to do my own chores & organizing projects.
I wanted to find a solution for that.
I wanted to find a solution for that.
I started my own system of rewards for everything I do. For completing a chore (which takes about 15 minutes time) I earn a block of 5 minutes time for internet. I write 5 on a white board circle it as soon as I finish my task.
I “earn internet time” this way by doing chores at home & also spending some quality time with baby & husband. For example I get 5 minutes each for the chores such as folding 21 clothes, for washing 7 pots & pans, for cooking a balanced meal, for cleaning a bathroom, for organize a problem area, for doing something special for my husband , for reading to baby before bed, etc. When I collect about 30-40 minutes I sit with my lap top with a guilty -free mind to get a break.
Sometime ago my baby used to hate it when I sit in front of the computer.
But now we do lots of online toddler educational activities together. We share , we laugh and we maintain a very strong bond.
But now we do lots of online toddler educational activities together. We share , we laugh and we maintain a very strong bond.
Great article! It really is about finding balance with everything in one's life. I been in Flylady since 2005 and it wasn't until this year that I am conquering getting dressed to shoes. Now I started a blog. The positive thing is I turn my TV off where before it would be on all day long. So getting balance with just the fun stuff is a real challenge. I think it is going to have to be willing to adjust as situations pervail.
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